Be fearless, in life and in love

‘The only legacy I will accept is to know that however far I got- it was as far as I was capable of going. I want to drown in my own sweat knowing there was nothing left’ – Jared Singer & Anthony Ragle

In love

Anyone who knows me well enough knows that I believe in putting up a damn good fight for the people that you love. I am not only referring to romantic relationships; the same is true for your family and friends. I believe in being able to walk away from something knowing that you did everything in your power to make sure that the situation had the best possible outcome for everyone involved.

These days, we're too worried about perception and what other people might think of us. But if you truly want something to work out, you need to stop being afraid of rejection, vulnerability and leaving empty-handed. Instead of worrying about how far the fall might be, why not just jump? Why not just say 'f**k it' and risk failing for the right reasons?

In all your relationships, practice rigorous honesty, love fiercely and unapologetically; because honestly, what’s the worst that could happen?

The thing about love- real, deep and pure love- is that it makes you brave. Brave enough to do the things you never would have done in the past. Brave enough to spill your passion. Brave enough to spill your heart instead of being crippled by the fear of the outcome. So go ahead and be fearless, because if you don’t try and you don’t ask, the answer will always be ‘no’, and you'll be stuck with the regret of not doing anything. This regret is far worse than the regret of actually trying and ultimately failing, in my opinion.

Don’t be afraid to play by your own rules, don’t be afraid to spill your passion, don't be afraid of grand gestures and don’t be afraid to express yourself. There are few things more beautiful than love and it’s so important that we don’t stand in our own way. If somebody makes you happy, or makes you feel like the most authentic version of yourself, like you’re flying; make sure you do everything you can to keep this person.

At the end of the day, material possessions are a great measure of success, a representation of our hard work and how far we’ve come. However, love, kindness, gentleness, honesty, human connections, passion, happiness, art- these are the things that keep us going and give our lives more value and meaning. They help with the manifestation of a deeper reality; they make you feel connected to others (and to yourself) on a level that material possessions cannot. They give us the courage to go beyond even our own expectations of ourselves, they give us the freedom to live as we always wanted to, they put us in alignment with the highest version of ourselves. These are only a few of the gifts you could be missing out on simply because you are afraid.

In life

Honestly, you can pretty much apply the same principles to life. Understand that there is no NOW in fear. Let's face it, life is always going to throw things at us that we can never really prepare for anyway, we cannot control every single situation and every single outcome. That shouldn't stop you from waking up every day and finding out what it has to offer. Instead of trying to control everything, be fearless and intentional with the things you do. If everything could be controlled and we could all predict the future, life would be pretty boring. The fact that you're nervous about trying something new or nervous about what might happen is exactly the reason why you should go for it. Make sure that when you look back at your life one day you can smile knowing you made the most of every opportunity, even when you had every reason to let fear take over.

Thabile x

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